heart and actions

I've been thinking about the intentions of the heart vs. the actions that I do. It comes to my mind with my kids frequently... I want them to obey me when I ask them to do something, but I want them to do it with a good attitude. Much easier to see with them than it is to peer into my own life. I go to church, school my kids, and interact with people but sometimes my heart just isn't in it. For me, there's a constant struggle between being transparent, honest, sincere, and putting aside my feelings to do what I know to be right. I know I can't rely on my feelings to guide me, I have to rely on the Word and the Spirit. But I don't want to be just doing, doing, doing with no feeling behind it though. I think when I get caught up in the do, do, do stuff I get to be a very dull and boring person... no fun. The joy goes out, and I know that the joy is to be part of what God gives out to His kids. Here I am, asking Him for some more joy. Working out my salvation........... :)